8 Tips to Maintain Good Mental Health Through the Holidays

The holiday season is often described as the “most wonderful time of the year,” but for many, it can also bring stress, exhaustion, and emotional overwhelm. Between social obligations, financial pressures, family dynamics, and the rush to make everything “perfect,” it’s easy to lose sight of your own well-being.  Add to that overindulgence in food and drink, and you have the perfect recipe for burnout. 

The good news? With a little mindfulness and planning, you can protect your peace and find genuine joy in the season. Here are eight practical tips to maintain good mental health through the holidays.

1. Set Realistic Expectations

You don’t need to host a picture-perfect dinner or buy the most extravagant gifts. Let go of the idea that everything must go according to plan. Instead, focus on what really matters — connection with those we care about, shared love and laughter, and moments of rest and reflection. Perfection is overrated; presence is priceless, and it’s frequently our genuine, undistracted presence that means the most to our loved ones.

2. Create (and Protect) Boundaries

It’s okay to say no. Whether it’s declining an invitation or limiting time with certain relatives, boundaries are essential for mental well-being. Communicate them clearly and kindly, and remember — setting boundaries is not selfish; it’s self-respect, and it’s what teaches others how to treat us.  If you know that a large gathering is going to deplete your energy, but you still want to connect with the host, suggest an intimate lunch or coffee visit, just the two of you.  

3. Stick to a Routine (as Much as Possible)

The holidays can disrupt sleep, exercise, and eating habits. While flexibility is fine, try to keep some structure — even small things like a morning walk, journaling, or a consistent bedtime can help you feel grounded and balanced.  

4. Be Mindful of Spending

Financial stress is a major contributor to holiday anxiety. Set a realistic budget early and stick to it. Thoughtful, meaningful gifts — like handwritten notes or shared experiences — often mean more than expensive ones.  And don’t discount acts of service!  Showing up for someone, even just spending some personal time with them can be the best gift of all.  

5. Prioritize Rest and Downtime

Amid the celebrations, give yourself permission to slow down. Schedule quiet moments to read, nap, or simply breathe. Rest is not a reward for productivity — it’s a basic need.  When we spend all of our time racing around, and don’t take the time to rest our bodies and minds, we become out of balance.  You can’t pour out of an empty cup, and downtime is the way to refill ourselves!  Then, when that high energy is needed, you will have more of it to draw from.  

6. Stay Connected (But Also Know When to Unplug)

Connection can be healing, especially if you’re feeling lonely or isolated. Reach out to friends, family, or community groups. At the same time, don’t underestimate the power of unplugging from social media — constant comparisons with others can drain your joy, and the ads for all the things you “must have” can drain your finances.  Taking some time away to rest and reflect on what is important to you can help you embrace what brings you joy, and gently decline 

7. Move Your Body

Exercise boosts mood and reduces stress, even in small doses. A winter walk, dancing to holiday music, or stretching in the morning can do wonders for your mind and body.  

8. Practice Gratitude and Self-Compassion

Take time each day to reflect on what you’re thankful for — big or small.  Truly stop and savor that gratitude and appreciation. And if (when) things don’t go as you planned, be kind to yourself and those around you. You’re doing your best, and that’s enough.  Focus on noticing and appreciating the small things - the neighborhood full of lights, a warm hug from someone you love, or a walk in the brisk winter air with your pup!  Being aware of these small things will bring you joy, and it’s that joy we are truly seeking, although we often completely lose sight of it in the hurried busyness the season so often brings.  

The holidays are a season to celebrate light during the darkest time of the year — but it’s easy to burn out if you’re not careful with your own energy. By setting boundaries, staying mindful, and prioritizing self-care, you can make space for the moments that truly matter.

Remember: caring for your mental health is the best gift you can give yourself (and everyone around you).